We’re 18 weeks pregnant and in our 5th month as of last Wednesday. We had a doctor’s appointment last Sunday and all is well! The baby is growing and healthy and the same is true for me. We reminded our doctor about our not wanting to know the gender and she is really excited as most couples want to find out right away. We will tour the hospital at the end of this month and meet the other doctors that will be on call in case our doctor is not available when we deliver. I’m super anxious right now about feeling our baby move… I’ll be sure to inform you when it happens.
These pictures are from October but I wanted to share because we had a wonderful time! We were invited by some friends from church that were friends with the Arabic woman who owns the property/farm. It was a cooler evening and it rained on and off, yet we spent the entire day out there. When we were not sitting by the fire drinking tea we were riding 4-wheelers. It was really fun eating traditional Arabic foods and sitting on the ground under a tent with people who welcomed us like family.
I was invited to my first Arabic engagement party and wedding a few weeks ago! I’m so excited about being a part of her special days as she is a friend and I know that I will experience many new things. The woman is the sister of one of my students and her English is superb, which is very uncommon for the village where both my husband and I work. She has helped me greatly with my research regarding the village and in the process we have become friends. I called her one day to update her about our pregnancy and she informed me then that she had something she wanted to talk to me about. She came to the school during one of my breaks and shared her news with me.
The process of getting married is very different from that in the US. Here the women do not know their future husbands. They do, however, know of them as most of the women here marry their first cousins. When a man is interested in marrying a woman, he asks the father’s permission. If he comes from a good family and if the father of the potential bride wants his daughter to decide her future, then he will tell his daughter that a good man asked to marry her and she can decide yes or no. If the father is not as interested in his daughter’s opinion he can tell the gentleman yes or no and then tell the daughter what her future plans are. If the man is not honorable the father will usually say no before consolting with the daughter unless they need the finiacial relief of marrying their daughter off, in which case he will say yes.
In my friend’s case, her father and brother told her about the proposal and praised the gentleman for his character. Initially, she refused as he is younger than she is and she is still completing her studies to become a teacher. After speaking with her mother she changed her mind under the condition of her future husband allowing her to finish her studies now and persue a PhD.
After attending the events I will upload pictures (if I am allowed to take any)and jot my experiences. Until then, I am in search of a traditional engagement and wedding ceremony dress.
If you are interested in finding out more about Islamic/gulf culture from a westerner’s perspective, I recommend “Guests of the Sheik: An Ethnography of an Iraqi Village” by Elizabeth Warnock Fernea. While there are differences between an Iraqi village and an Emirati village the book does give great insight to living in a Middle Eastern country.